Essay on Dating article

 

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Millennials: The Next Generation

            In the article, “Casual Dating Has Millennials Confused,” Libby Ryan talks about the current dating scene and how it is defined by the millennial generation. She reports that young people today have taken the term “dating” and given it a different definition. For them, it means to be in a committed relationship with one person instead of dating around with other potential partners, whereas the latter is classified as “hanging out” or “seeing each other.” The reason behind this seems to be that many millennials have the constant fear of rejection and do not want to go through the hardships of breaking up and suffering a broken heart. Additionally, defining the status of one’s relationship, or labeling, is apparently stressful among most couples. People may wonder why all of this is so confusing for today’s young adults and why the dating scene is very different than in years past. That is not to say, however, that all of the values and principles of the past are lost forever.

The definition of a “millennial” has been hotly debated for many years. Many different researchers have presented many different findings as to what the definitive age group is for millennials. According to TheAtlantic article, “Here is When Each Generation Begins and Ends, According to Facts,” Philip Bump writes that the birth-year range for millennials, as defined by authors William Strauss and Neil Howe, is:

“…those born in 1982 and approximately 20 years thereafter” (Bump)

Strauss and Howe have also stated that the cutoff year for millennials is 2004. So, as of May 2017, this distinction defines the millennial to be between 13 and 35 years of age. However, it seems that there are possibly two sub-ranges within that age group, each of which define the millennial even further.

Although millennials seem to share the same views and ideas about dating, we may find that a significant percentage of millennials have a different take on dating and are possibly fans of the old-fashioned ways of finding their significant other. The following theory suggests that millennials could be split into two separate groups. First, let us identify the two sub-ranges of millennials. Using the age range compiled by Strauss and Howe, the first sub-range would be from 1982 to 1992, or one who is between the ages of 25 and 35 today. The second sub-range would be from 1993 to 2004, or someone who is of 13 to 24 years of age. An adult from Sub-Range 1 is more likely to have been brought up with the values and morals of the traditional world of dating simply because their parents are from either Generation X, born between the mid-1960’s and late 1970’s, and their grandparents were more than likely Baby Boomers, born between the 1940’s and early 1960’s. During those eras, dating was very different. It involved things like the traditional “date,” like attending a movie or going out for dinner as well as proper dating etiquette like the man paying for dinner or the simple things like holding the door open for the lady and treating her with the utmost respect and love. Sub-Range 1 adults would call this “proper”, while Sub-Range 2 adults would most likely call it “old-fashioned,” “ancient,” or even “extinct.” The folks at eHarmony, an online dating website, tend to agree.

“Our great-grandparents moved at a glacial pace that would drive us crazy, while our rush into intimacy of all kinds would make them blush. As usual, balance is found in the middle. The bottom line: Wade in slowly!” (eHarmony Staff)

 

Young adults between the ages of 13 and 24 most likely have different take on the dating scene. With the advancements of modern technology, such as the internet and dating apps, younger adults now have fast and easier ways of finding a potential mate as opposed to finding one among friends or co-workers. Younger millennials have now taken on the common dating tactics of “hooking up” or just “hanging out” while communication has reduced to text messages and social media in place of the conventional telephone call or letter in the mail. In a listicle by Em & Lo in the Huffington Post, these are just a few of the millennial dating patterns that are common today. They claim that going on “dates” is,

“…too old fashioned, too formal. The best you’ll get is coffee, a casual drink, or hanging out at someone’s house or apartment…even if people do get together in a way that an older generation would consider an official date, millennials will never call it a date.” (Em & Lo)

Today, dating seems to be very scrutinized and trivial. Younger millennials seem to not want to be in a committed relationship until they are ready, some not even at all. It is possible that this evolution of dating is affecting the happiness and lives of certain couples. Maybe if we all just take a glance back at what used to be the norm, we may all be happier. It may be considered old-fashioned now, but we should all think about how happy those couples were back then and how much less stressed and carefree they were. Millennials are sometimes referred to as:

“…the next great generation” (Strauss & Howe)

The past generations, however, will always be “great” in their own right.

 

 

Bibliography

Ryan, Libby. “Casual Dating Has Millennials Confused.” Star Tribune. 14 Feb. 2015.

 

Bump, Philip. “Here is When Each Generation Begins and Ends, According to Facts.”

       The Atlantic. 25 Mar. 2014.

 

eHarmony Staff. “Six Things We Miss About ‘Old-Fashioned’ Dating.” eHarmony.com. n.d.

 

Em & Lo with co-writer Sarah Marcantonio. “Dating’s Dead. Long Live These 10 Millennial

Dating Patterns.” The Huffington Post. 30 Mar. 2016.

 

 

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